When you cultivate, you must engage in virtue. If you have emotional struggle, then ask yourself “What is the purpose of life?” If you recognize your soul journey, then you can more easily disconnect from emotions. As long as you protect your emotions, then you remain engaged, and you will detour your soul purpose.
When you take people's negativity it is because you see the negativity.You don't see pain, you don't see victim, if you really see joy only.
All immortals go through what humans would call unendurable. They must go through the most rigorous testing. Are you 100% sure this is your soul purpose? Are you loyal? What is your true purpose? If you really know that, then there is no pain in being challenged. If you turn to being the persecutor, then you persecute yourself. Take things lightly. “Put down your heart”.
When people take advantage of you, feel pity, mercy and compassion for them. Take things lightly. Don't take things too seriously, don't think everyone comes to take advantage. If that is the case, then you must ask yourself what you have done or are doing in this life that is unvirtuous. (Focus on today not prior lives!!)
Live mercifully, compassionately. When people need you, feel honored. Be sincere and serve in spirit, talk, lecture; serve by giving time to help be virtuous, do it faithfully for your own spirit. You know the sacred meaning and that is why you give with joy. When you give with conditions, then that is not true giving.
When you know your soul purpose then you are given extra challenge. The more progress you make, the more challenges you will have to face. You will have a heavier load. You must face the load joyfully and with compassion. Don't ask “why me?” or analyze it. Then it doesn't count at all. One good deed is hidden within a whole load of challenges. If you start complaining, then there are no good deeds.
Instead of saying, “I can't do it” you should say “How can I do it?” Give to your ability. I you say “I can't” then you've lost the chance for one good deed. Just do what you can and assist the person to go on their journey. It may be just the perfect chance of God testing you.
Persevere in your soul purpose.
You must ask yourself “Do I have 100% ability for kindness?” If less than 100%, is that true kindness? Be 100% kind, no less. Return hate with kindness, joy, and mercy. Be steady with who you truly are. Kindness is truly an internal manifestation. When you cannot show kindness, it is because the quality and quantity of Qi is low. When one doesn't love themselves enough, it is an internal Qi issue.
Always look inside. If you attack others, it is twisted Qi in the Dan Tian. Always look inside. Be merciful.